I’m a firm believer that no one is an island. We can set out to do anything, but realistically, try as we might (and I often try REALLY hard, ask my husband), it’s incredibly rare that we accomplish anything truly on our own. I enjoy being independent, and when you mix that with a stubborn streak a mile wide, it can make for some interesting struggles. My close people don’t wait for me to ask for help anymore, they just give it, and I’m so thankful every single day they do.
I’m a stay at home mom, as many of you know, and that wasn’t an easy change to wrap my head around. I felt weird not going to work and bringing in an income. However, my husband, sweet man that he is, is the first to remind me that he couldn’t do his job, if I wasn’t at home doing mine. Which not only entails caring for our daughter, but also other household tasks like grocery shopping, meal planning, and generally making sure nothing falls through the cracks. And don’t even get me started on stay at home mom life. If you let it, it can be incredibly isolating, and often is in the beginning, particularly if you don’t have existing friends with children of similar age close by. When they say “it takes a village” to raise a child, they were not kidding. And if your village happens to be spread out between 4 states like mine is, well then you better find yourself a new village closer to home!
Fitness and dietary goals aren’t any different. We can always try to achieve things on our own, but our chances of success exponentially increase with some support. I used to go to the gym. I knew it was good for me, so I went, but I didn’t enjoy it. As a result, I never stuck with it long term. I can remember trying to get out of my gym contract when we were moving to Texas. The kid I was speaking with was telling me about the other states they had branches in, so I wouldn’t have to cancel. When he asked where I was moving, my brilliant response was “far away.” I didn’t want to hear how I could keep it up, I just wanted quit and move on with my day.
Now I have a fitness support group, some I see regularly, and some more sporadically depending on schedules. For me, this group of ladies has gone way beyond the encouraging “come on, we can do it” while we sweat profusely, try not to curse in front of the kids and gut out 45 more seconds of something hard. Its become a group who shares recipes and food products we find at HEB or Costco (most of them healthy), a group who encourages me to do better in a lot of facets of my life without any judgement, and a group I can go to with awkward questions like “why am I sweating so much?” or “does your post baby stomach still do this?” (turns out I’m not the only one post c-section who doesn’t love the way their stomach looks during…umm…certain activities).
Since the addition of this support, I not only enjoy going to work out classes, but I’ve stuck with it well over a year now. Which means I’ve had over a year of people supporting me making both physical and mental healthy choices. How amazing is that?
Maybe you tend to be more introverted like me, and have had some success on your own. Imagine the kind of results or tips you can get if you DO let people in!